Yeah as an Indian, as an insensitive civilian, yeah I am pretty well at being complacently stable. You know it’s amazing how I can keep my calm even in times which require my active participation at the society level. I have this super awesome knack of being oblivious to things happening around me. And its not that I was always like this, I have taken my lessons from my parents my elders and from instances which after deep introspection prove that non-participation is the best way to stay out of trouble.
It all started after today’s incident. It was a normal day like every day is. Mum asked me to take her for some shopping to the nearby market area (it’s around 7 km from where I stay). So we took out the car and soon after a while found ourselves amidst heavy traffic. More than being pissed I was shocked because Jamshedpur is not really a city of jams (it’s a small little pretty town in the Eastern Singhbhum district of Jharkhand managed by the TATAs themselves). After 5 minutes of continuous horn honking and witnessing two wheelers overtake me from all sides, which made me all the more frustrated I reached the central crosspoint and found two traffic policemen there swiftly chatting away as one made a little khaini between the filthy warmth of his palms. I was not only disgusted to see this sight but also found my internal intestines writhe with anger , I had to just say something, I had to make an exception and not be complacent about this. As soon as I reached the crosspoint I gave them a nasty look and said: “ Kya kar rahe hai aap yha?(What are you doing here standing and chatting?)” The remark was of course rhetoric and meant to hurt, but the traffic policeman had something else in mind. He instead picked up his stick hit my car on the side door and said : “Bataaiyen kya, chal chal (Should I tell you what. Just run away)”. I knew I couldn’t put up my point in a more better way, stopping just didn’t make sense after I steered out of that nasty traffic and also because my mum was already apologizing for his son’s impulsive behavior to the policeman outside. You now see my angle don’t you?
Its not just this very instance, I am sure everyone has had an encounter of this kind. Last year my sister and her husband had an accident while she was driving her car somewhere in New Delhi. Both of them were terrified and scared, and to top it all, the situation was made worse by people nearby who took away their car keys and maybe asked for money as ransom. The thing is bad people are happy doing their bad deeds while others are happy being complacent and non-participative. Rather than changing the system we try and get accustomed to it. It’s easier to adapt and grow resistive than be against it. But the question is if I continue doing this wont I one day become a stagnant, rotten and off the track individual? A person who would fear change and always look for old accustomed things around him? Maybe I am just thinking a lot, or maybe it’s true. In either case I am here to say that I cant be this way. I am going to raise my voice against all that I think is wrong and needs to be spoken against and let the system go fuck itself.
The other day I was discussing with my sister who is settled abroad the possibilities of coming back to india and maybe start a family here, and she very judgmentally ruled out this possibility and I very well agree with her decision. India is a place where the possibility of a girl enjoying a late night walk alone is just found in fantasy novels, leave aside the point of raising a child here with the best possible facilities. I once asked a girl how she felt when every passer by crossing on the streets stared at her. She replied: “arey aadat ho gayi hai ab toh”. Her reply reminds me of an incident I once saw in Delhi Metro where a man ogling a girl got a very apt reply by the girl herself: “Kya bhaiya ladki nahi dekhi kabhi kya? (What , you never seen a girl?)”.
What are we making of ourselves? I was once travelling with a she friend of mine in an express train and I could sense the eyes of the entire bogey on us, like we had committed a heinous crime, or ran away from our respective homes. The same groups of people remain oblivious to jittery remarks made by assholes on girls travelling alone on the same express train. Have we really become so insensitive and stone hearted or have we become straight cut foolish? Isn’t the shroud of callousness clouding our existence, clouding our rights to speak up, clouding our consciousness and the judgment to decide between right and wrong?
The Supreme Court of India in a decision taken out today illegalized the Homosexuals. In a massive blow to the entire LGBT community, the SC of our country prohibits “carnal intercourse against the order of nature" and verifies section 377 of our constitution. I know some people may have different views to what I have but I for one know that this is against our human rights. Renowned author and novelist Vikram Seth says:"There is a barbarism in treating choices of consenting adults as a crime. I wasn't a criminal yesterday. Today I am. I intend to continue being a criminal". I really don’t know which order of nature is the SC speaking of? Wasn’t it nature in the very first place that created them? Would the SC now pass judgments on our choices of love too(or people with whom we intend to make love to)? Fuck this crap !
And I really don’t get the fuss over the concept of “Feminism”? Feminism has not got to do with fighting for equal rights for the fairer sex only. Infact feminism aims at equal rights for both the sexes. In a stable and evolved society the male sex can only prosper when the female sex’s rights are taken into account. Yes I am a feminist and atleast I am taking sides and not making a fuss over it. People grow up ! having an opinion from what you see and learn on social networking sites is worse than having no opinion itself. Don’t make an issue of things which don’t need to be made. Enough said. Period.